Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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I thought that the principle behind the book is something that almost every couple will help. My husband and I laughed at the points b / c we found a number of anecdotes, so instead of our daily lives. Eggerichs clearly explained to us why we are the “Crazy Cycle used.” Respect / Love needs of men / women is potentially a marriage saver or breaker.
I have two constructive criticisms of the book. I still recommend this book, I give these conditions: first
This book speaks as if men know how to love their wives. There may be one million are books on how to do it, but we have not. My husband and I read it. And I was tired of hearing how women needed to learn to respect their husbands. Honestly, I picked up the client within the first few pages. After a few chapters, I felt my eyes roll a bit. Because he paid little attention to talking about how men should love their wives, it felt as though that part was very underplayed. I understand that was not the point, but the title was “Love & Respect,” not only “respect”.
Second I would like more concrete examples of what it means to “Respect” my husband. I want to do. He made clear that “nagging, complaining and whining” at him were disrespectful. But I need more examples. What are the active things I can do? Is it disrespectful to my husband to remember to take the waste the night before? If it is, so how can I ensure that the work is done w / out reminded him? It is not about control, but I have kids out the door in the morning and I need help and I need him to do one thing. Opinions? I need to know how to have this discussion w / out disrespecing him.
I hesitate to use this as a small group book b / c it is so one-sided. And it tends to repeat itself. Again, I have the key fairly quickly. And as good as he is, after a while, enough is enough. Another declares said it felt a bit like a brochure for the conference. That’s exactly how I felt.
A good book? Yes. A useful principle? Absolutely. A must-read? Maybe. But certainly a help to a Christian marriage, and therefore I do and would recommend.
Posted on July 30, 2010 at 1:40 am
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The good:
1) I love the connection between love and respect. Every time he says that real men need women to respect and need love, you have to mentally translate it to both * * * Men and women love * need * and * respect, but the premise is a god – the Christian vision of love gives a position to observe, respect and blessing of the other person.
2) The crazy bicycles and reward cycle. This is one of the most important thing that most couples can learn. Our behavior is self-reinforcing and good things that lead to more good things in one cycle. Bad things often lead to bad things. The good news is that we serve God and salvation, as the Gospel teaches us that Christ breaks out of a cycle of sin, God can redeem the broken marriages and them from destructive cycles.
3) * * some couples, an irreverent attitude toward the man or woman loveless attitude * is * the problem. For these relationships, I imagine they would benefit greatly from this book.
Niet-zo-goede:
1) As indicated by several reviews already, the book is incredibly sexist. I started making a ‘W’ in the margin, when Dr. Eggerichs blame women for the problem, and an “H” when he saw the man accused. Skimming back through, it’s about 90% W’s. Almost every time something negative to say about the man, you’re almost assured of a follow-up sentence talking about how his wife pettiness or nagging or belittling or criticism or bitterness, or what was the cause of the behavior of the man. At times it was to the point, I thought he was emasculating men by us to be powerless – we can not take responsibility for our own behavior because all questions are probably our fault but the woman.
2) It is kindof a continuation of # 1, but I honestly can not believe that he is a man and a woman found * * fault of the wife of infidelity man. Find a man who wants to justify his immorality by blaming his wife should not be too hard, but Dr. Eggerichs found a woman who also accused * * for philandering of her husband. The idea that a man so little control over his own actions, that he was probably wondering if his wife does not put out enough, it is just annoying.
3) The narrow focus. As I mentioned above, a despised man or woman is unloved is a problem for some couples. But there are many reasons why marriages struggle and lack of respect is only one option. Dr. Eggerichs not recognize at all.
Four) He had a lot of energy on the defensive use, so Dr. Eggerichs clear acknowledges that the idea of unconditional respect, a number of problems. I honestly do not see the appeal of unconditional respect. If I want respect from my wife (which I certainly do!) Will I act in a manner that deserves respect * *. Why should I require to unconditional respect, regardless of my actions, except that I do not bother to serve it?
Posted on July 30, 2010 at 2:21 am
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A great book that much earlier Christian (Outreach, as his needs, her needs) and secular (eg Men are from Mars, women from Venus) treatments of the subject. While other books have a number of gender specific psychological and biological differences, Dr. Eggerich provides a framework (Love / Respect), which is nice for both its simplicity and ability to these men and women differ as a part of God’s plan for men Women explained, and marriage.
Some reviewers will undoubtedly write off the book as full of “sexist stereotypes.” Yet I found the book profound truths that are equally relevant for someone like me – a professor at a major university, her marriage could be described as revealing “egalitarian” – as women who have chosen more traditional roles.
Posted on July 30, 2010 at 3:05 am
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Love and Respect is one of the best books I’ve read on the subject of male female communication. As this book gets more and more exposure will be a must-own Christian marriage counseling. Not only did I order the book, but I also ordered the 9 CD set on the same subject and workbooks “Motivating your man God’s Way. I am a person who lives in New York and this book contains a great material for singles wish invaluable when they marry. I have learned much from the content of our Bible studies. buying this book, perhaps the greatest investment you can do to people to learn about the opposite sex, and have a God-centered the marriage.
Posted on July 30, 2010 at 3:43 am
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This book was recommended to us by our consultant. They recommend that each of the couples, she advises or has advised. That’s how much they believe in this book. My husband and I read the opening and knew immediately that it would help us build a stronger foundation and have a better marriage. The concept is so simple – he needs respect and she should know what she loved – but you have an A-HA moment and know that so very true. The book will feel like it speaks to you directly. Every couple should read this book – happy couples and couples in difficulty.
Posted on July 30, 2010 at 4:10 am